If the stairs to your house make a sound, you can hear if someone comes to the house and you can decide weather you leave the door open or close it.

The neighbour that wants you to close the door will not be able to complain about you having the door open all day during she is at her job. You may close the door when she comes to avoid the war she used to make about it.

Or you may keep your door open to see what happens. Sometimes war is started, sometimes not. Only when there is enough energy to answer the war, the test with the open door is done.

Tests must only be done if the answer can be given. To expect a child to be able to make dinner is not to be fulfilled if you did not take time to learn the child to make dinner.

The grown up that hates to make dinner has a choice to stay at the place where he is expected to make dinner with the child or go. Run away from the house where it was good as long as he was a guest but as he was seen as a member of the family, it became a place of no return.

No return because the family expects somsthing that this member will never do unless he wants to do it. But once give this member the order to make dinner, he is gone as he does not need to have dinner. He loves the days that he is not eating but writing and experiencing.

And he loves to have dinner that was prepared with love and joy and he prepares to be one of them that prepares dinner with love and joy.

But until this time has come, he rather runs away and stays on the street than prepare a dinner on command.

The child that is not given time to play will not be able to play the first or second violin, nor will this child be the laughing one. He will be serious and try to fulfil the orders and expectations of those that order him and he will have to refind his freedom when he is grown up.

A child can not protect the grown up but must be protected by the grown up and the grown up that has not learned to protect himself but can only run away, can not protect the child that loves toten hosen that he does not ware.

He is like other children and needs love and understanding, care and play. The play that is a song for all who play it.