Are you hungry? No, are you? No, but it is time to eat. Oh, eh, yes you are right. The kids come to have dinner.

Yes, sure, but five more ninutes just being here and talking about what comes into the mind?

No ,I am very sorry, I love it here but I got to go home now to make dinner for the kids that will come.

The mother is confused. When she wants to move, she thinks about food and about making dinner and the people she is with take her home.

She forgot. She forgot what she wanted to do she says and is not aware about the fact that she does not remember.

She lives in a home for elderly people with special needs and there she is cared for as she can no longer take care of herself.

Has she once been able to take care of herself? Has she had the possibility to be independent or is she someone that comes from a family that does not allow their members to be free as a bird.

To live the own life and fulfil the own needs and get the help that one needs to fulfil those needs?

Or is she a member of a family in which the woman is not allowed to be independent which makes that the women have to fear. They can not build up a self-confience that is needed to live without help.

Not being able to hear or to speak up if your borders are not kept, makes that a person can get very insecure and has to find other borders.

That can be stopping to speak about the subjects that are in the mind and troubling but also the projects one has and has to discuss to order all the thoughts and to get another view on what one knows the future will bring.

Knowing that you will have to move can make mobile, you look for another place to live and go into shops that might bring you ideas to furnish your next house or you get immobile.

You may become immobile, not able to do anything else than what you are used to do and the fear for the horrible experiences that you had on one movement make that you are afraid to move again.

Even if there were some movements afterwards, the pain that one particular movement gave, can stay in the system and make that every next movement is experienced in fear and total chaos.

One can observe how one gets nervous, is no longer able to change the old habits but is attracted by something that is like an addiction.

That can be writing on the computer, playing a game on a machine, drinking the first glass of wine of the day but also going out and run until you are exhausted, swim until you changed your own record or put on the television and watch.

Smoking can be a way to avoid that you will tell what is on the tip of your tongue, comes into your mind all the time and wants to be told.

Not eating but just taking the nice things is a way of changing the own energy that was soo often hurt as someone took over and the own deeds were condamned.

Always getting the feed-back that what you do is not good enough will not help to become a self loving person.

Being aware of this non-self-love is not enough. One needs feed-back that what one does is good enough and one needs a thanks.

"Thank you" does not have to be expensive but it could help. It could help if those who have the money would give it to those who can make more of it. The money that is payed for "Iceland pepers" can not work as money that is loaned or given to someone who wants to start a center where people in coma will be able to come out of this coma.

A lot of energy is jus thrown away by not wanting to listen and being afraid for changes. The figures are as last year, so no money lost?